When your husband is gay
How to Cope When Your Spouse Affirms a New Sexual or Gender Identity
The revelation that your partner has a different sexual or gender identity from the one you've come to recognize and love — and the implications that will have for your relationship — can be a lot to deal with.
To the person learning the news, it might feel like the other person has been harboring a secret, and this may feel like a betrayal, says Avigail Lev, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist at Bay Area CBT Center in San Francisco who works with both couples and individuals.
She says it can lead to the same feelings you might experience if a partner cheated on you or lost a lot of funds gambling, especially if the other person kept other relationships or feelings from you, she says.
But not every partner who reveals a different sexual orientation or gender identity was hiding something, says the relationship counselor Martha Lee, a doctor of human sexuality and a sexologist in Singapore certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).
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I get many, many emails from women who attain out because of the intense pain they are feeling when their husband leaves them for another woman. Among other emotions of divorce, they inform me they are in shock, devastated, angry, scared, resentful, bitter, and beyond sad and upset. They are feeling very alone, their life shattered, and left to think about their husband in a new, blissful relationship. But what happens when the ex leaves not for another woman, but for another man? This is the case with a woman who told me, &#;My husband is same-sex attracted and is leaving me.&#;
Her situation really made me stop and think. I wondered if she was feeling the same emotions these other women experience. Are the feelings of hurt, betrayal, hopelessness, horror, anger, bitterness, devastation, and sadness the same? Yes and no? Are they similar but different?
In talking with her, she said that like any lady whose husband leaves (for whatever reason) it turned her life upside down. She didn’t know what she was supposed to do, she was scared, felt alone, abandoned, and hurt. She also said she felt like she mayb
An Intense Fight With My Husband Has Me Convinced Our Entire Life Is a Lie
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Dear How to Do It,
Please help. I’m pretty sure my husband of more than 20 years is gay.
Some background: I have anxiety, and anxiety can come with paranoia at times. He’s been my only sexual partner, and we were married when I was in my soon 20s. We are of similar ages, but he had been in other sexual relationships, which was fine with me. I just hadn’t. Now, plus years and multiple kids later, half our marriage has been him not wanting to include much to act with physical stuff like kissing, cuddling, or sex—unless I perform on him, usually. I am lonely as hell. We sleep in the same bed, but I sense like we are just roommates. He’s not super signify, and I’ve brought this conversation up so many times up over the last 15 or so years, but every time there’s another reason: He has bad breath; he’s tired; he just wants to be with his friends (I’m not invited). He says every time I bring it
Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband
Sometimes a woman may hold been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may find herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an expert in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women contain been, or are, married to gay men. If a husband is queer , it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Signs of a Lgbtq+ Husband – Is My Man Gay?
The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Understand If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't reach this place of honesty on their hold. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
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